Shortly after I moved to Odessa, Texas in 2009, the sports editor at the paper recommended a Thai restaurant as a good eating place. As it turns out, it was next door to my apartment complex there.
Well, I never went there. And, my last night in Odessa, as I walked around the complex, I was glad.
And, there's a story behind that.
More than a decade ago, in southeastern New Mexico, my office manager was an interesting, and generally good-at-heart person. Her religious/philosophical/psychological beliefs were a mix of Joyce Meyer's riff on the success gospel and a vaguely Christian/New Age mashup of "things are meant to happen."
She wanted out of the city, and definitely to a better position. And she was smart enough.
That said, she sometimes said words to the effect of, "I probably haven't gotten out of here because I haven't done X."
Well, for various reasons, those words stuck in my mind after I was fired at that newspaper and moved on to a new newspaper job, new city. I thought, at times, maybe I haven't left here yet because I haven't "done X."
Well, I eventually got moved to metropolitan Dallas, where there are a million X-es to do. After my newspaper in our suburban chain closed, I was trying to get out of my rural East Texas newspaper job after that as soon as possible. But, I didn't have that mindset, nor did I even think about it.
Nor did I after I got back to Dallas. Then, the entire chain closed.
And, I eventually wound up in Bush-ville.
And, as I walked past that Thai restaurant, I didn't think about not having gone there. I did think about how that old "thing must happen for a reason" and related mindset was pretty well purged.
And, that's my New Year's resolution for myself and wish for you readers: A new mindset.
Skeptical about "received wisdom" in the best way, skeptical about myself in the best way, and open to new growth in the best way.
Happy New Year.